We are a month into the new year so likely your resolution to lose weight is fading. This is in fact a good thing. The problem with weight loss coaches and any other "expert" in the weight loss field is that they often base your ideal weight either on a chart or some other arbitrary weight goal that they think you should be. The problem with this is that it does not take into account your own body and its set point. We all have a set point for our weight, and trying to get down to a weight that is lower than your set point is harming your health.
I urge you to ask yourself why you want to lose weight. Are you currently healthy, and you think you will look better being a smaller size? Or, do you have a medical reason why you need to lose weight? If it's the latter I suggest getting help from a trained professional, such as a registered dietitian to help provide a safe weight loss plan that is sustainable. If it's the former, I suggest you consider the implications of attempting to lose weight when it is unnecessary for health reasons, and purely for aesthetic reasons.
I have seen many people that have had no issues with food... until they went on a diet. After going on a diet, the restriction sparked a restrict/ binge cycle with food, and many people end up gaining weight from their "diet" and feeling worse about their bodies than before they engaged in the initial diet. And this is how "yo-yo" dieting starts.
Myth #1: If you are not losing weight you are eating too much
Fact: Sometimes we do not lose weight because we are actually eating too little! I have worked with many people who do not eat enough and this actually lowers their metabolism and prevents them from losing weight. If you open any "health" magazine it will tell you to keep your calories around 1200-1500 calories per day. This is not enough. Everyone needs to be eating a minimum of 1700 calories per day, no matter what your weight is.
Myth #2: If you have enough willpower you can get to your ideal weight
Fact: This has been proven wrong. Research shows that willpower, just like a muscle, will fatigue and burn out. So, relying on willpower to help you lose weight will not work. If your meal plan is not balanced and provides satiation, eventually you will not be able to stand being hungry and deprived anymore, you’ll go off your diet, and regain any weight you lost. This is the single most reason why 99% of people “fail” on their diets. The diets simply do not provide enough balance and satisfaction. This is also why I never give people diets. They are harmful and cause deprivation and rebound binging.
Myth #3: You will feel happy and confident when you reach your ideal weight
Fact: Unfortunately, no. I have worked with hundreds of people who have lost weight, gained weight, and lost weight again. When I ask them if they feel happier at their lower weight, their answer is almost always no. You might think that if you lose weight you will be a different person. But underneath your body, you are still the same person. If you feel insecure and you lose 20 pounds, you will still feel insecure just in a body that is a little bit smaller. If you want to feel better work on strengthening all of the things you think will be different when you lose weight. And start working on them now, in the body you have currently, not the body you may have 20 pounds from now.